Instagram y los adolescentes Desde que nace un bebé, su reputación digital nace desde el momento en que esa foto de recién nacido fue posteada en FaceBook o Instagram 92% de los recién nacidos ya tienen página 32% de los padres dicen que suben en promedio entre 11 y 20 fotos de su recién nacido al mes 1500 fotos antes de cumplir los 5 años Is it causing things? “Social comparison and bodies… that's what IG is about” Qué es diferente de IG de otros social media? IG is very visual When things are visual we react much more emotionally than text When our brains where not design for SM… we could take more The nature of being a young adolescent is to be worried about their body It is not just IG Stays in your profile Is very image directed Very visual Freaking out about it NOW is curious… it's been here for so long [https://www.commonsensemedia.org/sites/default/files/uploads/research/2021-coping-with-covid19-full-report.pdf](https://www.commonsensemedia.org/sites/default/files/uploads/research/2021-coping-with-covid19-full-report.pdf) Emotional fluctuation is normal Talk to them, but don't assume it's just because of SM Self esteem is how we evaluate ourselves, not how we see ourselves, against an image La autoestima es un conjunto de percepciones, pensamientos, evaluaciones, sentimientos y tendencias de comportamientos dirigidos hacia uno mismo, hacia nuestra manera de ser, y hacia los rasgos de nuestro cuerpo y nuestro carácter. En resumen: es la evaluación perceptiva de nosotros mismos. Cosas qué observar: Kids hesitant to connect Obsessive stalking of people they admire Increased behaviours out of balance from their norm Let them know IG is going to feed you more of what you see They need to know how these algorithms work!!! You are actually TEACHING it what to do with you Social support is one of the biggest supports of self-esteem If they are worried about losing friends Offer offline social support How we feel about our skills TALK about social media Our brains are not designed for SM! It's tough OUr brains are primitive We respond to things we like SM we interpret as real friends We need critical thinking so they are aware and not feel bad about the reaction so they can step back Haz un ejercicio con tu hijo: Los Highlight reels are just that: highlights If we compare with someone's best moments, it makes no sense Have them make their own highlights Or a regular life reel FILTERS Usan FaceTune, que es para photoshopear It's free, it's easy, and then they think everyone else looks so much better Definitely need to have these conversations Social comparison… The cosmetic industry would not be so successful… if we didn't want to alter reality Advertising is the reason behind… to sell whatever Cosmetics, plastic surgery Image Or, having a great life… son las dos cosas que les afectan a los niños What are you hiding from social media…? Feeling not good enough, skinny, pretty enough When you read those aloud to a room, they realize it's normal, they are not the only one! It works only in a classroom **The positivity ratio:** - **What three good things happened today?** Para que se cambie la manera en que el cerebro piense **Queremos que cambie de neg a positivo** **You still have a 3 to 1 positive** Proven to change self-esteem; rewires your brain!! 83% want to be an influencer (ahead of doctors or lawyers) don't quote me, aha Are kids enthralled with influencers? They see that they are making money and have a great lifestyle… What does it mean to be an influencer You lose your privacy, and the number of people who achieve influence… Do that with your own kids These are kids they turn to online, they get suggestions from them on how to be! Ask them what are the influencers they follow! They are your kids “friends” They feel an emotional connection They speak right to the kid, it's like a trusted acquaintance and that makes them very influential Kids can curate they iG feed to get more of what they like Two accounts on IG are anti-facetune.. [https://www.instagram.com/s0cialmediavsreality/](https://www.instagram.com/s0cialmediavsreality/) @beauty.false [https://www.instagram.com/p/B1eXsJxo0zK/](https://www.instagram.com/p/B1eXsJxo0zK/) Otro sitio Que les hace ver la realidad CBS ran a challenge: filter detox 10 days without a filter!! If you were going to use a filter… makes you stop and think Keep track of the social media together to compare and you can share your experiences Cuando se quieren hacer daño: hay un pop-up que surge y te alerta Se puede ver la lección que nos comparten de Cybercivics [https://www.cybercivics.com/download-facetune-lesson](https://www.cybercivics.com/download-facetune-lesson) **Talk early, often, bridge of trust** So you understand what's going on in their brain Not before 13 Assess your own child!! See what they are goals for wanting this, and where will they be hanging out Ask them who they are following There is no substitute for talking Train them to ask questions when they see something What are they trying to get mem to do? What are they after? Keep a journal for a few days… track of what you do and how it makes you feel You can curate what comes your way! Don't expect those companies to protect your child You have to educate your child, absolutely important How are they going to detach every piece of images? IS YOUR CHILD READY FOR A SMART PHONE! Las universidades hoy en día revisan tus redes sociales Te ayuda lo qu3 posteas? Ellos buscan lo que haces extra-curricularmente, tu carácter, … Y los empleadores también Según una encuesta de 2017, 70% de los empleadores buscaban en ese entonces en tus redes sociales antes de contratarte 30% tienen a un empleado dedicado 100% a investigar perfiles de sus solicitantes en redes sociales Qué buscan? - 61% buscan info que les hable sobre sus cualificaciones - 37% quieren saber lo que OTRAS personas dicen sobre el candidato - 24% buscan razones para NO contratar al candidato. 40% encuentran info que les hacen QUERER contratar pero el 60% encuentra información para NO querer contratar Pero curiosamente… 60% de los empleadores dicen que DUDAN en contratar a alguien que NO tenga presencia en redes En un mundo ut´òpico, podemos imaginar a los chicos posteando solo cosas positivas porque han tenido el tiempo y la oportunidad de aprender a usar la tecnología de manera segura, sabia y amable Lo que posteas importa. Siempre. Hay que hablarles sobre su reputación digital, frecuentemente y lo suficientemente a tiempo. La gente te juzga por lo que ve en linea Digital actions are public and permanent!! Qué necesitan previo a su uso de las redes sociales? Ser humanos Aprender a ser seres humanos en línea y fuera de línea, con empatía, consideración, compasión, entendimiento y todas las demás cualidades que nos hacen humanos. Diana Graber Sé bueno. Sé amable. Sé feliz. Según Henry Jenkins, del MIT, Confronting the Challenges of Participatory Culture: Media education for the 21st Century (paper) The urgency to help youth develop the cultural competencies and social skills needed for full involvement in the emerging media environment. Esto no es muy tecnologico Esto se aprende al convivir con gente real, viva, y sin necesidad de tecnología Estas competencias culturales y habilidades sociales las llamò “Nueva alfabetización de medios” Capacidad de juego, de simulación, interactuar con herramientas que mejoren sus capacidades mentales, aplicar la inteligencia colectiva, juicios, networking, negociación. Explicar a nuestros hijos mayores Con los chicos, Buscar una comunidad de gente que piense igual… muy importante que esas nuestras ideas y valores los conozcan los otros padres de la escuela, para que las puedan respetar. Mientras más involucrado esté un adulto en el mundo digital, menos quiere que sus hijos participen a temprana edad.